Hello March: Ladies' month 👸🧕👰👩👧

 

Dating 101 – Part 1: How can you be more successful at asking people out?

In this new series we are going to answer different question regarding how people could date and find a new partner more successfully. In the very first article we will share some general information and focus mostly on meeting new potential partners in person. Keep reading to find out what the most important factors are in such situations!

Many people ask where they should go to meet a new potential partner or how they could ask other singles out successfully if they get few matches in dating apps based on only their looks. Let’s examine what we should consider and do in this case. 

1. The laws of attraction

Attraction is totally subjective, as everybody considers different things beautiful. However, a study about couples where one of the parties was generally considered better-looking (you can learn more here if you speak Hungarian), concluded that they developed feelings towards their partner after getting to know them better. Therefore these people used their personality, intelligence, knowledge and other interpersonal skills to impress, which everybody can take advantage of and improve. You can even combine effort with pleasure and choose a hobby that requires spending time with other people or attend self-development workshops regularly where you can get to know yourself and others better as well.

2. Good things take time

If you choose this way, keep in mind that reaching your goal may take longer than swiping right on a dating app. On the other hand, if you are looking for a long-term relationship, it is a huge advantage if your potential new partner already knows a few things about you and may have even seen your reaction in different situations before you “officially” decide to build something together to see how compatible you may be with each other. This often happens if you meet your partner at work for example, which happens quite often according to statistics… because in this case some circumstances might be ideal, which we will describe in the next point in more detail. 

3. Take it easy

Most relationships apparently begin randomly. When we go to work and school or simply spend time with our friends, we may be open to meeting new people but our main focus is not on that. While some people stay friends or colleagues for years before deciding to go on a date (so they can do what was written in point 1 and decide that their personalities may be compatible in the long-term), in some other situations we tend to get nervous or too pushy from the very beginning as we already enter them with certain expectations. 

We could all share what our fears and worries are as a single person, but these should not determine who we are. What a potential new partner wants to know is who we really are, what goals we have related to the other areas of our lives, which ones we have achieved, and how we could contribute to theirs as a positive person. Therefore, whatever platform or way you choose to meet new people, it is important to stay calm, take it easy and just be yourself.

Successful dating checklist

•     Besides your appearance work on your inner self too. Be someone who feels good in their skin and loves what they do so you always have something to talk about.
•    Go out often to meet new people or spend time with those with whom you feel good. Be open to meeting new people and to see who could be a potential compatible partner for you. 
•       Give yourself enough time to do so (it doesn’t need to be long) and take the process easy so your potential partner can get to know the real you.

Good luck with all this! In our next article we will examine another topic related to dating in more detail.

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5+1 interesting facts about love and Valentine’s Day

Today love is in the air! Regardless of anyone’s relationship status, this is another good opportunity to and learn something new about the concept of love itself and Valentine’s Day! For this reason we’ve collected 5+1 interesting facts about these (actually more).

1. What is love?

Philosophers have been trying to answer this question since the birth of human cultures. In the Hungarian language we can talk about two kinds of love: szerelem (romantic love) and szeretet (the warm feeling you have towards your friends and family). However, ancient Greeks distinguished no less than 7 types of it:

Eros	A passionate but not too deep connection based on strong physical attraction
Philia	The kind of love you have for your friends and family
Storge	The kind of unconditional love parents have towards their children
Agape	Selfless, universal love for humankind, nature, and God from a spiritual point of view.
Ludus	The flirty, playful feelings we experience at the beginning of a relationship
Pragma	Long-lasting love that develops with time if both parties are in harmony with each other and working on it (the typical way of how long-term relationships work)
Philautia	Love for yourself – you can develop a healthy self-esteem or an unhealthy personality if you have too much or too little of it.

2. You can literally suffer from a broken heart

There are many ways in which being in love may affect your physical health as well. Scientists sometimes compare this condition to addictions, as similar hormonal and chemical changes happen in your body in both cases. This explains why breakups are often so hard to get over.

However, some people literally end up in hospital after an event like this and get diagnosed with broken heart syndrome. This disease is “a temporary heart condition that's often brought on by stressful situations and extreme emotions”.

It has also been observed that people who live in a happy relationship recover faster from their injuries compared to those who are going through a hard time with their significant other. Polygamous men are slightly more likely to get a heart attack than monogamous ones, as it is an even bigger and more stressful responsibility to take care of several wives and children at the same time.

3. Valentine’s Day

While most people agree that in a good relationship you should love your partner every day, some of them consider Valentine’s Day a special occasion and get overzealous about it. For example in 2014 Joseph Andrew Dekenipp, an inmate serving his sentence in Arizona, USA, chose this day for his escape so he could spend the evening having dinner with his girlfriend.

On the other hand, besides singles the owners of adult websites don’t have a reason to celebrate either, as today is one of those days in the year when they experience the lowest traffic.

4. Love strikes twice

In Brazil Valentine’s Day (aka Dia dos Namorados) is celebrated on 12^th June. Therefore if you are not Brazilian but have a crush on one, keep in mind that there will be two dates that you should try not to forget. (Or you can choose to stay single and go on a short vacation to Brazil every February).

Such differences in the timing of holidays may occur in other situations too if you date someone from another country. For example, if you are a Catholic and your partner is an orthodox, you may end up celebrating Christmas and Easter twice a year.

5. It will work out...

You still don’t have a date for this Valentine’s Day? It’s not too late, as it’s Monday, and you are going to work, right?...

According to different statistics about 25% of today’s couples met through work. This is the most frequent way of starting a relationship. The second one is through friends, while dating apps and other similar platforms have a lower ranking. This is partly due to the fact that while in the first two environments we usually try to be ourselves and behave naturally, when we sign up for a dating app, we already have various expectations and approach the whole process differently.

+1 The 5 love languages

While Valentine’s Day promotes showing your commitment towards your significant other by buying them gifts, this is definitely not the only way you can do that. Gary Chapman created 5 categories based on people’s most important needs in a relationship, which we call the 5 love languages. While for some of them it is essential to give and receive gifts often regardless of their financial value, others find one or two of these more important:

Words of affirmation	Praising your partner often, saying positive words to them and about what they do
Physical touch	Hugs, kisses, physical closeness
Acts of service	Doing favours and helping your partner mostly with different tasks
Quality time	Spending time with your partner and paying attention to them without any disturbing factors (such as the television or mobile phone) involved.

If you found this article useful, please share it with your single friends along with the link of our group, which you can find below! Like our Facebook page so you can always see what is new! If you have any questions or suggestions, contact us! 

The Conscious dating in Budapest team

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Happy 14th February, happy... Wine's Day???! 🍇🍷

Tired of buying drinks for yourself on Valentine’s Day? Here’s an alternative holiday for you giving you a happy reason to celebrate with everyone around you! 🍇🍷 (The video is available in English with Hungarian subtitles). 

If you would like to learn more about love and different cultures, check out the links below to our Facebook page and group! If you have any questions or suggestions, contact us! 

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Happy international pr💍p💍se day!

As it turns out, it is also international "Propose Day" today.

"It's Propose day, so I had better follow his example..." 💍 😂

I'd like to ask what your opinion on this is. Would you be happy if your significant other chose this date just because many other people do? Or would you expect them to choose a more personal one (for example your birthday, etc.)? 💍 Leave us a comment or contact us:

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Jay Shetty: Under pressure as a single person?

Valntine’s Day is coming! (I know, this is a singles’ group…) That’s why I’m sharing a message for you that everybody should hear from Jay Shetty (the video is available in English with Hungarian subtitles): 

If you found this article useful, please share it with your single friends along with the link of our group, which you can find below! Like our Facebook page so you can always see what is new! If you have any questions or suggestions, contact us! 

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Hello February! 💝🍷🍇

Hello Everyone and hello February!

We are taking a short break in the blog, but not for long, as you all know we have an important topic to deal with coming up:

How to be happy single (especially around this time of the year)

So, this is the plan for this month:

8th February: Valentine's Day: Should single people feel pressured?

11th February: Trifon Zarezan: An alternative holiday that makes everyone happy on 14th February

17th February: Question from our readers: How could I be more successful at asking people out?

24th February: How to find new goals after a breakup? (One of the topics from January)

If would like to meet new people as a single person and discuss these topic with them, we suggest you to check out or Facebook group. You can also like our Facebook page to always see what is new! If you have any questions or suggestions, contact us! 

The Conscious dating in Budapest team

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