Showing posts with label lifestyle. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lifestyle. Show all posts
Tuesday, March 1, 2022
Monday, February 21, 2022
Dating 101 – Part 1: How can you be more successful at asking people out?
In this new series we are going to answer different question regarding how people could date and find a new partner more successfully. In the very first article we will share some general information and focus mostly on meeting new potential partners in person. Keep reading to find out what the most important factors are in such situations!
Many people ask where they should go to meet a new potential partner or how they could ask other singles out successfully if they get few matches in dating apps based on only their looks. Let’s examine what we should consider and do in this case.
1. The laws of attraction
Attraction is totally subjective, as everybody considers different things beautiful. However, a study about couples where one of the parties was generally considered better-looking (you can learn more here if you speak Hungarian), concluded that they developed feelings towards their partner after getting to know them better. Therefore these people used their personality, intelligence, knowledge and other interpersonal skills to impress, which everybody can take advantage of and improve. You can even combine effort with pleasure and choose a hobby that requires spending time with other people or attend self-development workshops regularly where you can get to know yourself and others better as well.
2. Good things take time
If you choose this way, keep in mind that reaching your goal may take longer than swiping right on a dating app. On the other hand, if you are looking for a long-term relationship, it is a huge advantage if your potential new partner already knows a few things about you and may have even seen your reaction in different situations before you “officially” decide to build something together to see how compatible you may be with each other. This often happens if you meet your partner at work for example, which happens quite often according to statistics… because in this case some circumstances might be ideal, which we will describe in the next point in more detail.
3. Take it easy
Most relationships apparently begin randomly. When we go to work and school or simply spend time with our friends, we may be open to meeting new people but our main focus is not on that. While some people stay friends or colleagues for years before deciding to go on a date (so they can do what was written in point 1 and decide that their personalities may be compatible in the long-term), in some other situations we tend to get nervous or too pushy from the very beginning as we already enter them with certain expectations.
We could all share what our fears and worries are as a single person, but these should not determine who we are. What a potential new partner wants to know is who we really are, what goals we have related to the other areas of our lives, which ones we have achieved, and how we could contribute to theirs as a positive person. Therefore, whatever platform or way you choose to meet new people, it is important to stay calm, take it easy and just be yourself.
Successful dating checklist
- Besides your appearance work on your inner self too. Be someone who feels good in their skin and loves what they do so you always have something to talk about.
- Go out often to meet new people or spend time with those with whom you feel good. Be open to meeting new people and to see who could be a potential compatible partner for you.
- Give yourself enough time to do so (it doesn’t need to be long) and take the process easy so your potential partner can get to know the real you.
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Sunday, February 13, 2022
5+1 interesting facts about love and Valentine’s Day
Today love is in the air! Regardless of anyone’s relationship status, this is another good opportunity to and learn something new about the concept of love itself and Valentine’s Day! For this reason we’ve collected 5+1 interesting facts about these (actually more).
1. What is love?
Philosophers have been trying to answer this question since the birth of
human cultures. In the Hungarian language we can talk about two kinds of love: szerelem
(romantic love) and szeretet (the warm feeling you
have towards your friends and family). However, ancient Greeks distinguished no
less than 7 types of it:
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Eros |
A passionate but not
too deep connection based on strong physical attraction |
|
Philia |
The kind of love you
have for your friends and family |
|
Storge |
The kind of unconditional
love parents have towards their children |
|
Agape |
Selfless, universal
love for humankind, nature, and God from a spiritual point of view. |
|
Ludus |
The flirty, playful
feelings we experience at the beginning of a relationship |
|
Pragma |
Long-lasting love
that develops with time if both parties are in harmony with each other and
working on it (the typical way of how long-term relationships work) |
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Philautia |
Love for yourself –
you can develop a healthy self-esteem or an unhealthy personality if you have
too much or too little of it. |
2. You can literally suffer from a broken heart
There are many ways in which being in love may affect your physical
health as well. Scientists sometimes compare this condition to addictions, as
similar hormonal and chemical changes happen in your body in both cases. This
explains why breakups are often so hard to get over.
However, some people literally end up in hospital after an event like
this and get diagnosed with broken heart syndrome. This disease is “a temporary
heart condition that's often brought on by stressful situations and extreme
emotions”.
It has also been observed that people who live in a happy relationship recover faster from their injuries compared to those who are going through a hard time with their significant other. Polygamous men are slightly more likely to get a heart attack than monogamous ones, as it is an even bigger and more stressful responsibility to take care of several wives and children at the same time.
3. Valentine’s Day
While most people agree that in a good relationship you should love your
partner every day, some of them consider Valentine’s Day a special occasion and
get overzealous about it. For example in 2014 Joseph Andrew Dekenipp, an inmate
serving his sentence in Arizona, USA, chose this day for his escape so he could
spend the evening having dinner with his girlfriend.
On the other hand, besides singles the owners of adult websites don’t have a reason to celebrate either, as today is one of those days in the year when they experience the lowest traffic.
4. Love strikes twice
In Brazil Valentine’s Day (aka Dia dos Namorados) is celebrated on 12th
June. Therefore if you are not Brazilian but have a crush on one, keep in mind
that there will be two dates that you should try not to forget. (Or you can
choose to stay single and go on a short vacation to Brazil every February).
Such differences in the timing of holidays may occur in other situations
too if you date someone from another country. For example, if you are a Catholic and your partner is an orthodox, you may end up celebrating Christmas and
Easter twice a year.
5. It will work out...
You still don’t have a date for this Valentine’s Day? It’s not too late,
as it’s Monday, and you are going to work, right?...
According to different statistics about 25% of today’s couples met
through work. This is the most frequent way of starting a relationship. The
second one is through friends, while dating apps and other similar platforms
have a lower ranking. This is partly due to the fact that while in the first
two environments we usually try to be ourselves and behave naturally, when we
sign up for a dating app, we already have various expectations and approach the
whole process differently.
+1 The 5 love
languages
While Valentine’s
Day promotes showing your commitment towards your significant other by buying
them gifts, this is definitely not the only way you can do that. Gary Chapman
created 5 categories based on people’s most important needs in a relationship,
which we call the 5 love languages. While for some of them it is essential to give
and receive gifts often regardless of their financial value, others find one or
two of these more important:
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Words of affirmation |
Praising your partner often, saying positive words
to them and about what they do |
|
Physical touch |
Hugs, kisses, physical closeness |
|
Acts of service |
Doing favours and helping your partner mostly with
different tasks |
|
Quality time |
Spending time with your partner and paying attention
to them without any disturbing factors (such as the television or mobile
phone) involved. |
If you found this article useful, please share it with your single friends along with the link of our group, which you can find below! Like our Facebook page so you can always see what is new! If you have any questions or suggestions, contact us!
The Conscious dating in Budapest team
https://www.facebook.com/consciousdatinginbudapest
www.facebook.com/groups/consciousdatinginbudapest/
consciousdatinginbudapest@gmail.com
Thursday, February 10, 2022
Happy 14th February, happy... Wine's Day???! ππ·
Tired of buying drinks for yourself on Valentine’s Day? Here’s an alternative holiday for you giving you a happy reason to celebrate with everyone around you! ππ· (The video is available in English with Hungarian subtitles).
If you would like to learn more about love and different cultures, check out the links below to our Facebook page and group! If you have any questions or suggestions, contact us!
The Conscious dating in Budapest team
https://www.facebook.com/consciousdatinginbudapest
Tuesday, February 8, 2022
Jay Shetty: Under pressure as a single person?
Valntine’s Day is coming! (I know, this is a singles’ group…) That’s why I’m sharing a message for you that everybody should hear from Jay Shetty (the video is available in English with Hungarian subtitles):
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Monday, January 24, 2022
Should you change for your partner? π♀️
If so, in what way? Jay Shetty will help us find that out! (The wideo is available in English with English and Hungarian subtitles).
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Thursday, January 13, 2022
How to change your life in 1 year? π
How to make your new year resolutions cause permanent changes? Let Better Ideas give you some tips on that! (The video is available in English with Hungarian subtitles.
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Thursday, December 2, 2021
How I got scammed on Facebook dating - By: Anonymous Group Member
Since dating apps were invented, people have been using them for various purposes. We all have different stories to tell, some of which had a happy ending, and some others, from which we gained a lot of valuable experience. One of our group members is sharing his experience with us today.
I am a 25-year old scholarship student studying in Budapest, Hungary. My life is hard: I go to school and I did part-time work to get money to travel back home. I worked for at least 2 months to save enough money so I can travel home. (As a student can only work 20 hours per week, so I couldn't earn much).
I was living alone and started to feel depressed due to the Covid restrictions and the pressure on me as an engineering student. In this situation, I realized I need a companion: someone I could hang out and share my feelings with.
I made a profile on Facebook dating to find someone and I matched with an Asian girl. I thought finally this could be it. Finally, she may be that someone I was looking for! She asked me to send her my Whatsapp number and I did so. We started talking. I wanted to take things very slow and try to get to know her better. But she didn't seem so much interested in me and would brag about her successful business and money instead.
I noticed this pattern that she was only talking about money, and she even showed me how much she had gained with some Forex trading. I was still not interested in money, but she told me that she would teach me this skill, which would help me improve my circumstances.
Since I had been doing part-time work (physical work where I lift and drag heavy weights up to 1 ton), I thought if I learned this skill, maybe I wouldn't have to do this job. I thought it would help me save time so I could focus more on my studies.
She kept pushing me forward fast and tricked me. She used my emotions against me and scammed me into investing money into Forex. First she made me install Meta trader 5 (it is an electronic trading platform widely used by online retail foreign exchange speculative traders) which I checked and was genuine, but the broker website where she forced me to make an account (Absa forex https://absaforex.com/) was a scammer. This I did not know so in the end I invested all the savings that I had kept to travel back home.
I am just an ordinary student, and not only did she use my emotions, but now I am also left with no money.
Anonymous Group Member
How could we avoid getting into such situations?
1. Be confident and know what you want!
These stories usually begin with power imbalance. That is, one of the parties is confident and knows what they want, while the other is desperate and seems easy to influence. The only way to avoid this is to work on yourself: remind yourself of your values and other life goals in difficult situations. Focus on what you are grateful for instead of concentrating only on the obstacles in your way. Talk to the people about them whom you already know well and trust. Keep in mind that you are still in control of your decisions and only you can find a solution to the problem. Be aware of your real needs and do not settle for less!
2. Set your boundaries and notice red flags 
!
There is a pattern that I have noticed regarding such situations. In many cases people have a first impression that they may not be compatible with that person for some reason. Despite this we often give a 2nd/3rd chance because some of our neds still get satisfied, for example we feel less lonely when we are with them. However, if we want to plan for the long-term, besides observing how we feel right now there are many other aspects too that we should look at. This is why it is totally understandable if we want to set boundaries, see what is comfortable for us, and when we feel ready for something. In a happy relationship the other person should understand it if you need time and respect your decisions.
3. Be patient!
If something seems too good to be true, that is usually not true. This applies to both relationships and other situations in life. For this reason it is important to always give yourself time to learn more about a new situation you've gotten into. If you want to do something that is outside your comfort zone, that is totally fine, as long as you do so after collecting enough information and when you feel ready deep inside too. Creating something long-lasting is a process, therefore it requires constant investment of energy for a period of time before you can benefit from the really big achievements. However, every little step you take might help you develop valuable skills.
All in all, it is necessary in every situation to keep our self-confidence at a healthy level and remember what our long-term goals are. If we are aware of our boundaries, that might also help avoid power imbalance in the new relationship and having to step out of our comfort zone when we don't feel ready yet. It is important to always give ourselves time to get to know our needs and learn as much as we can from a new situation.
If you found this article useful, please share it with your single friends along with the link of our group, which you can find below! Like our Facebook page so you can always see what is new! If you have any questions or suggestions, or you would like to share your dating experience with us, contact us!
The Conscious dating in Budapest team
https://www.facebook.com/consciousdatinginbudapest
www.facebook.com/groups/consciousdatinginbudapest/
consciousdatinginbudapest@gmail.com
Thursday, October 28, 2021
How does your comfort zone affect your (love) life?
Your comfort zone plays a very important role in all parts of your life. For example when it comes to dating, you might go out with someone you don't know so well yet, ask someone you like out, stand up for yourself, look at someone's behavior from a different point of view so you can understand your role better in it, face what is holding you back (such as your fear of commitment), or try something new in order to develop yourself and meet new people. These actions probably all require you to step out of your comfort zone.
From an even more general point of view, your comfort zone affects your life regardless of your relationship status and whether you're looking for a new partner or not. If you want to be more conscious, know who you are and make decisions that are really beneficial to you, you might want to check out this video for the channel Better Ideas to get a deeper understanding of this topic (English subtitles are available if you open the video on YouTube):
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Today love is in the air! Regardless of anyone’s relationship status, this is another good opportunity to and learn something new about the ...
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In this new series we are going to answer different question regarding how people could date and find a new partner more successfully. In th...
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Tired of buying drinks for yourself on Valentine’s Day? Here’s an alternative holiday for you giving you a happy reason to celebrate with ev...
