Dating 101 – Part 1: How can you be more successful at asking people out?

In this new series we are going to answer different question regarding how people could date and find a new partner more successfully. In the very first article we will share some general information and focus mostly on meeting new potential partners in person. Keep reading to find out what the most important factors are in such situations!

Many people ask where they should go to meet a new potential partner or how they could ask other singles out successfully if they get few matches in dating apps based on only their looks. Let’s examine what we should consider and do in this case. 

1. The laws of attraction

Attraction is totally subjective, as everybody considers different things beautiful. However, a study about couples where one of the parties was generally considered better-looking (you can learn more here if you speak Hungarian), concluded that they developed feelings towards their partner after getting to know them better. Therefore these people used their personality, intelligence, knowledge and other interpersonal skills to impress, which everybody can take advantage of and improve. You can even combine effort with pleasure and choose a hobby that requires spending time with other people or attend self-development workshops regularly where you can get to know yourself and others better as well.

2. Good things take time

If you choose this way, keep in mind that reaching your goal may take longer than swiping right on a dating app. On the other hand, if you are looking for a long-term relationship, it is a huge advantage if your potential new partner already knows a few things about you and may have even seen your reaction in different situations before you “officially” decide to build something together to see how compatible you may be with each other. This often happens if you meet your partner at work for example, which happens quite often according to statistics… because in this case some circumstances might be ideal, which we will describe in the next point in more detail. 

3. Take it easy

Most relationships apparently begin randomly. When we go to work and school or simply spend time with our friends, we may be open to meeting new people but our main focus is not on that. While some people stay friends or colleagues for years before deciding to go on a date (so they can do what was written in point 1 and decide that their personalities may be compatible in the long-term), in some other situations we tend to get nervous or too pushy from the very beginning as we already enter them with certain expectations. 

We could all share what our fears and worries are as a single person, but these should not determine who we are. What a potential new partner wants to know is who we really are, what goals we have related to the other areas of our lives, which ones we have achieved, and how we could contribute to theirs as a positive person. Therefore, whatever platform or way you choose to meet new people, it is important to stay calm, take it easy and just be yourself.

Successful dating checklist

•     Besides your appearance work on your inner self too. Be someone who feels good in their skin and loves what they do so you always have something to talk about.
•    Go out often to meet new people or spend time with those with whom you feel good. Be open to meeting new people and to see who could be a potential compatible partner for you. 
•       Give yourself enough time to do so (it doesn’t need to be long) and take the process easy so your potential partner can get to know the real you.

Good luck with all this! In our next article we will examine another topic related to dating in more detail.

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5+1 interesting facts about love and Valentine’s Day

Today love is in the air! Regardless of anyone’s relationship status, this is another good opportunity to and learn something new about the concept of love itself and Valentine’s Day! For this reason we’ve collected 5+1 interesting facts about these (actually more).

1. What is love?

Philosophers have been trying to answer this question since the birth of human cultures. In the Hungarian language we can talk about two kinds of love: szerelem (romantic love) and szeretet (the warm feeling you have towards your friends and family). However, ancient Greeks distinguished no less than 7 types of it:

Eros	A passionate but not too deep connection based on strong physical attraction
Philia	The kind of love you have for your friends and family
Storge	The kind of unconditional love parents have towards their children
Agape	Selfless, universal love for humankind, nature, and God from a spiritual point of view.
Ludus	The flirty, playful feelings we experience at the beginning of a relationship
Pragma	Long-lasting love that develops with time if both parties are in harmony with each other and working on it (the typical way of how long-term relationships work)
Philautia	Love for yourself – you can develop a healthy self-esteem or an unhealthy personality if you have too much or too little of it.

2. You can literally suffer from a broken heart

There are many ways in which being in love may affect your physical health as well. Scientists sometimes compare this condition to addictions, as similar hormonal and chemical changes happen in your body in both cases. This explains why breakups are often so hard to get over.

However, some people literally end up in hospital after an event like this and get diagnosed with broken heart syndrome. This disease is “a temporary heart condition that's often brought on by stressful situations and extreme emotions”.

It has also been observed that people who live in a happy relationship recover faster from their injuries compared to those who are going through a hard time with their significant other. Polygamous men are slightly more likely to get a heart attack than monogamous ones, as it is an even bigger and more stressful responsibility to take care of several wives and children at the same time.

3. Valentine’s Day

While most people agree that in a good relationship you should love your partner every day, some of them consider Valentine’s Day a special occasion and get overzealous about it. For example in 2014 Joseph Andrew Dekenipp, an inmate serving his sentence in Arizona, USA, chose this day for his escape so he could spend the evening having dinner with his girlfriend.

On the other hand, besides singles the owners of adult websites don’t have a reason to celebrate either, as today is one of those days in the year when they experience the lowest traffic.

4. Love strikes twice

In Brazil Valentine’s Day (aka Dia dos Namorados) is celebrated on 12^th June. Therefore if you are not Brazilian but have a crush on one, keep in mind that there will be two dates that you should try not to forget. (Or you can choose to stay single and go on a short vacation to Brazil every February).

Such differences in the timing of holidays may occur in other situations too if you date someone from another country. For example, if you are a Catholic and your partner is an orthodox, you may end up celebrating Christmas and Easter twice a year.

5. It will work out...

You still don’t have a date for this Valentine’s Day? It’s not too late, as it’s Monday, and you are going to work, right?...

According to different statistics about 25% of today’s couples met through work. This is the most frequent way of starting a relationship. The second one is through friends, while dating apps and other similar platforms have a lower ranking. This is partly due to the fact that while in the first two environments we usually try to be ourselves and behave naturally, when we sign up for a dating app, we already have various expectations and approach the whole process differently.

+1 The 5 love languages

While Valentine’s Day promotes showing your commitment towards your significant other by buying them gifts, this is definitely not the only way you can do that. Gary Chapman created 5 categories based on people’s most important needs in a relationship, which we call the 5 love languages. While for some of them it is essential to give and receive gifts often regardless of their financial value, others find one or two of these more important:

Words of affirmation	Praising your partner often, saying positive words to them and about what they do
Physical touch	Hugs, kisses, physical closeness
Acts of service	Doing favours and helping your partner mostly with different tasks
Quality time	Spending time with your partner and paying attention to them without any disturbing factors (such as the television or mobile phone) involved.

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Jay Shetty: Under pressure as a single person?

Valntine’s Day is coming! (I know, this is a singles’ group…) That’s why I’m sharing a message for you that everybody should hear from Jay Shetty (the video is available in English with Hungarian subtitles): 

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How I got scammed on Facebook dating - By: Anonymous Group Member

Since dating apps were invented, people have been using them for various purposes. We all have different stories to tell, some of which had a happy ending, and some others, from which we gained a lot of valuable experience. One of our group members is sharing his experience with us today.

I am a 25-year old scholarship student studying in Budapest, Hungary. My life is hard: I go to school and I did part-time work to get money to travel back home. I worked for at least 2 months to save enough money so I can travel home. (As a student can only work 20 hours per week, so I couldn't earn much).

I was living alone and started to feel depressed due to the Covid restrictions and the pressure on me as an engineering student. In this situation, I realized I need a companion: someone I could hang out and share my feelings with.

I made a profile on Facebook dating to find someone and I matched with an Asian girl. I thought finally this could be it. Finally, she may be that someone I was looking for! She asked me to send her my Whatsapp number and I did so. We started talking. I wanted to take things very slow and try to get to know her better. But she didn't seem so much interested in me and would brag about her successful business and money instead.

I noticed this pattern that she was only talking about money, and she even showed me how much she had gained with some Forex trading. I was still not interested in money, but she told me that she would teach me this skill, which would help me improve my circumstances.

Since I had been doing part-time work (physical work where I lift and drag heavy weights up to 1 ton), I thought if I learned this skill, maybe I wouldn't have to do this job. I thought it would help me save time so I could focus more on my studies.

She kept pushing me forward fast and tricked me. She used my emotions against me and scammed me into investing money into Forex. First she made me install Meta trader 5 (it is an electronic trading platform widely used by online retail foreign exchange speculative traders) which I checked and was genuine, but the broker website where she forced me to make an account (Absa forex https://absaforex.com/) was a scammer. This I did not know so in the end I invested all the savings that I had kept to travel back home.

I am just an ordinary student, and not only did she use my emotions, but now I am also left with no money.

Anonymous Group Member

How could we avoid getting into such situations? 

1. Be confident and know what you want!

These stories usually begin with power imbalance. That is, one of the parties is confident and knows what they want, while the other is desperate and seems easy to influence. The only way to avoid this is to work on yourself: remind yourself of your values and other life goals in difficult situations. Focus on what you are grateful for instead of concentrating only on the obstacles in your way. Talk to the people about them whom you already know well and trust. Keep in mind that you are still in control of your decisions and only you can find a solution to the problem. Be aware of your real needs and do not settle for less! 

2. Set your boundaries and notice red flags !

There is a pattern that I have noticed regarding such situations. In many cases people have a first impression that they may not be compatible with that person for some reason. Despite this we often give a 2nd/3rd chance because some of our neds still get satisfied, for example we feel less lonely when we are with them. However, if we want to plan for the long-term, besides observing how we feel right now there are many other aspects too that we should look at. This is why it is totally understandable if we want to set boundaries, see what is comfortable for us, and when we feel ready for something. In a happy relationship the other person should understand it if you need time and respect your decisions. 

3. Be patient!

If something seems too good to be true, that is usually not true. This applies to both relationships and other situations in life. For this reason it is important to always give yourself time to learn more about a new situation you've gotten into. If you want to do something that is outside your comfort zone, that is totally fine, as long as you do so after collecting enough information and when you feel ready deep inside too. Creating something long-lasting is a process, therefore it requires constant investment of energy for a period of time before you can benefit from the really big achievements. However, every little step you take might help you develop valuable skills. 

All in all, it is necessary in every situation to keep our self-confidence at a healthy level and remember what our long-term goals are. If we are aware of our boundaries, that might also help avoid power imbalance in the new relationship and having to step out of our comfort zone when we don't feel ready yet. It is important to always give ourselves time to get to know our needs and learn as much as we can from a new situation.

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Jay Shetty's top 5 pieces of relationship advice

For today Jay Shetty brought his top 5 pieces of advice for us regarding love and relationships.

What advice would you give to your friends who are in a relationship or also looking for a partner? Share your thoughts with us via the contact info below or in our Facebook group!

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Fast and curious – What if the relationship is moving too fast?

What if a relationship is going too fast and what does that mean at all? Let’s find out quickly!

First of all, we would like to share the thoughts of conscious dating expert Tímea Bilics:

Red flags in dating 2. – If the pace is too fast

A few weeks ago I wrote an introductory article stating that if one of your relationships had a not too happy ending, you may often ask yourself where things went wrong and why you didn’t notice the red flags on time. You probably do not want the situation to be repeated and you don’t want to get hurt again. 

As I also wrote back then, I generally do not like it when people point a finger at the other person, and I encourage everyone to find the reasons why they also contributed to the failure of the relationship first of all. However, there are also situations when things really don’t depend on you. 

But what are the signs that suggest that the relationship isn’t going in the right way or you or you are not with the right person even during the dating period?

One of these is when the relationship is moving too fast. This may be a huge trap because when you really like someone, you would like to be with them and spend as much time with them as possible. If you have the impression that the other person feels the same way too, you become joyful and hardly notice that you are going too fast. 

Today’s rushy world also contributes to this process, where messages get delivered in a split second, any kind of information can be found instantly on the Internet, where we judge the another person quickly, because we do not have time to get to know them. People in today’s society are indeed impatient and want to get everything immediately. Of course, there may be differences, but in general we do not learn to wait. 

But why is quickness a problem?
Because if we access everything too quickly, we do not learn to value things, and we will not develop the feeling of craving, anticipation, and desire either. On top of all these if things are going too fast, our attention slackens, we cannot be fully present, and we lose some details that would be good to experience or notice. 

When a relationship is moving too fast,

1. I do not have enough time to observe myself and how I feel in the relationship, what effect the other person has on me. For example, is there calmness behind the passion, or do I feel a little discomfort, distrust, am I questioning anything, do I have doubts about the other person about the other person or the relationship, which should be discussed?

2. I do not have time to observe whether this pace is good for me and comfortable, or am I moving onto the next step out of fear, because I’m afraid of losing the other person?

3. I do not notice if the other person crosses my borders and things have been happening for a long time that are not comfortable for me. 

4. I might lose my sense of reality and not notice if something is wrong. I do not have time to think over what has been said and what has been done. We may ignore for example vague or irrational reasonings, whose purpose is to cover potential falsehoods, by the other person. 

5. Real feelings will not develop more quickly, those need time. What you feel in the beginning is very good and points forward, but it is not really a feeling, only desire and a fantasy projected onto the other person. 

But what counts as too fast?

Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking about when two people both like each other and things are on their way, where they may be huge differences regarding time. 
I am talking about when you would like to move slowly, but the other person is rushing you or the other way around. 
When during online chatting they already ask you about your sexual habits even though you have not even seen each other yet. 
When after exchanging a few messages they already demand an answer regarding why you are not texting them. 
When on the first date they already call you their girlfriend/boyfriend or “sweetheart”, and they already become jealous of your exes.
When they already want to sleep with you on the first date and convince you to do so even though you would not want to do it yet. 
When on the second date they already want to introduce you to their family.
When the other person wants to move in together after one month, etc.

Always observe how you are in your relationship and what pace feels good for you! If you feel that it is too fast, you have the right to let the other person know this at any time and ask for time. This is the point where you can really see if they can become your partner. If they understand and respect this, go on with them. If they do not understand it, try to make a deal, judge you, or ignore your feelings, you had better put on your coat immediately and find that person who pays attention to you and appreciates what you can give at the moment. 
Tímea Bilics

We’ve also asked the members of our Facebook group, Conscious dating in Budapest, how they see this topic. The result are presented on this chart: 
If a relationship is moving very fast (you sleep together on the first-second date, then move in together in a few weeks let's say), that is...

While most voters (23 people) think it is hard to judge the situation because many things depend on the circumstances, the majority of them think it is just too fast (14 votes), dangerous (12 votes) and unhealthy (1 vote). The given options describing positive qualities were not chosen at all, only exciting, marked by 5 voters. Those who commented also mentioned the role of finances in the matter, that is, if you move in together with someone quickly, it is easier to share the costs instead of having to pay them all alone. 

Let’s look at the possible reasons and dynamics behind these result. When the relationship is going too fast, that may be…

Situation-dependent: as Tímea also wrote, if this feels comfortable for you, there are no problems. If you are aware of your boundaries, you can easily decide whether they have been crossed or not. This where self-awareness comes into the picture, which is essential in a situation like this. She also mentioned why it is a problem if things are just too fast and we do not notice some important details.

Dangerous: there are two main potential dangers here. Apart from losing our sense of reality (we will yet again not go into details here too), the other one is a potential power imbalance. It can easily happen that one person wants to give more and the other person wants to take more, which is not ideal, even if it might seem comfortable at first. This can happen in several ways: when it comes to finances, emotions, energy, etc. 

Not healthy: the above-mentioned dangers basically explain why such a relationship is usually not healthy. If we do not see clearly and let ourselves be controlled, that does not have a good effect on our self-confidence, and it is also possible that we fail to notice some other toxic patterns for a long time.

Exciting: this situation is indeed, and it is possible to experience very deep and strong feelings. We all crave these, and they are important in romantic relationships. On the other hand, we should always keep in mind that in the long-term this will not be the main factor based on which the relationship can be evaluated. How the other person treats us and how we cope with everyday challenges together tells a lot more about the quality of our relationship. Actions always speak louder than words, so if someone says “I love you” or even that “we are soulmates”, let them prove that as well.

All in all, even though jumping into a new relationship very fast might seem exciting, most of us are aware of the potential dangers of this situation. Self-awareness always comes in handy so we can notice more easily if our boundaries have been crossed and whether what the other person’s behaviour along with the image we have in our mind match with reality. If all the three come together, the relationship is probably heading in the right direction, and if not, we need self-awareness to decide what we find worth or not worth investing our energy into. 

Source:

The topics mentioned in this article were inspired by the works of conscious dating expert Tímea Bilics and her book „A tudatos társkeresés alapjai” (available only in Hungarian). It was one of the first sources from which I learned about conscious dating, so I recommend it to all Hungarian-speakers (or Hungarian-readers).

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4 Dangerous Reasons You Fall In Love Too Fast (Matthew Hussey)

Do you tend to fall in love too fast? If so, what do you think the reason for that is? Dating coach Matthew Hussey may give you some ideas and a deeper understanding:

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Q&A: Does conscious dating mean that I am looking for a serious relationship with one person?

At the beginning of our project a few weeks ago we made a summary of the concept of conscious dating. We have received some questions since then, for example one of our readers wants to know whether conscious dating exclusively means looking for the one. Today we are going to discuss this topic in more detail.

So, does conscious dating mean that I am looking for a serious relationship with one person?

In short, for most singles yes, that is their main goal, and our main focus is on supporting that as well in our group. However, if we asked such a person why they want this, the answer would probably be quite complex in the end. Why do I want a serious relationship? Because I want emotional stability and have someone I can always count on, someone with whom I can always explore something new, and so on.

On the other hand, if you ask someone who does not want this, exactly the same will happen. I’m not looking for anything serious, because I do not want to lose my freedom, I am leaving the city in a year, and I don’t feel ready for that in general. That’s why I’m looking for only something short-term.

In both cases the speakers gave a conscious answer. They know what they want (or do not want) and they are aware of their underlyings motivation too. They also know how to communicate their needs, and this is what conscious dating is all about. Nobody can decide what is good for you instead of you, that’s why this is your first task if you decide to step onto this way. However, you also need to know how to communicate your ideas in the right way so others understand your needs and expectations clearly. We have created a list of what you should keep in mind under all circumstances.

How to be a conscious dater?

1. Let go of fairy tales

2. Get to know yourself and your needs

3. Learn to communicate your needs clearly

4. Develop acceptance and emotional maturity

5. Set and stick to your boundaries

6. Learn more about your partner and everything else around you

Let’s see how this process works in detail:

1. Let go of fairy tales

We have already mentioned before what the difference is between howmovies and fairy tales depict love and how most people experience itin their lives. In fact, both are possible. Some people want to experience something very intense, (just like in those stories), especially while they are young, and they do. However, such relationships require a lot of mental resources and letting yourself see someone as totally perfect may be dangerous. Therefore this condition cannot be maintained till the end of time, and after experiencing it many people start to wish for another kind of relationship (or the existing relationship becomes): a calmer one, which is about stability, trust, reliability, seeing a more or less objective image of your partner, and always being there for each other despite the difficulties rather than constantly experiencing a variety of emotions at the highest level.

Even if you want to try the first option, you should keep the second one in mind and start working on that part of the relationship too as soon as possible, or see how compatible you may be with your new partner from this point of view.

2. Get to know yourself and your needs

In today’s society, if you happen to be in a modern, multicultural environment, you can become whoever you want to be. This refers to your main life goals, for example where you want to live, do you want to have children or not, what you would like to achieve in your career, and so on. These are all important when it comes to finding a long-term partner, because they will need to support you in these.

However, at the same time it also refers to what kind of relationships you want to be in. Would you mind being in a long-distance relationship for example or is that totally out of the question? Do you want one long-term relationship or several shorter ones? What do you think about one night stands, can you treat them with the right expectations? Does your culture support polygamy, and if so, do you want to try it, or could you never imagine yourself doing that? Our needs are all different. Nobody knows better than you what is good for you, so this is why it is important to become aware of what you want and keep the next point in mind:

3. Learn to communicate your needs clearly

If you have little or no experience in dating and relationships, communication will probably take some learning. This is a complex issue, but now we would like to highlight two concepts: honesty and respect. It is clear what being honest about your intentions means, but there is also a link between the two: if you are not frank, sooner or later you might lose your respect, and the consequences are the same after all.

If we compare any relationship (even friendly or business ones) to a car, respect is like the fuel. If there is no more left, it stops working. Pushing it by force requires a lot of effort, and maybe you can keep moving forward this way for a while, but not as much as you wish you could, so sooner or later you will toally give up and start focusing almost exclusively on the negative traits of your partner that have contributed to creating this situation.

On the other hand, being respectful pays off in the long-term: whatever happened between you and another person, it is much easier to focus on the positive side of it and what you’ve learned from it if you do not need to deal with new negative emotions before that such as anger or guilt. If both parties were respectful towards each other during the relationship, is also less difficult to cooperate with your ex-partner if you had kids together, work for the same company, or simply have many mutual friends if you still have respect for each other.

Respect is also something that needs to be both given and gotten, therefore finding a balance between the two is essential. The ideal situation is when both parties do both equally.

4. Develop acceptance and emotional maturity

A relationship always depends on two people. If you know what you want and communicate that clearly, honestly and respectfully towards the other person, now it is up to them how they react. For example, you might tell someone you are not ready for a serious relationship, and they might think: “I do want one, so I am sure I’ll be able to make him/her change his/her mind about this!” Trying to force your way of thinking on someone, to change someone, or to save someone from themselves – these are all actions that require hard work but will most probably not pay off in the end.

What you should do instead is always listen to the other person and see how compatible their plans and expectations are with yours. If someone has different needs or a different opinion, accept and respect that and decide what the next step should be taking that into account. If you develop this kind of emotional maturity, you can make more mindful decisions when it comes to dating.

5. Set and stick to your boundaries

We’ve just talked about trying to “save someone from themselves”, which is a good example to demonstrate what setting your boundaries means. You have a life and you are responsible for finding happiness in it. Your partner is in exactly the same situation, so if they are not able to do that, you can say you can try to help in some ways, but you cannot devote the majority of your energy to trying to fix their problem instead of them. But setting your boundaries and saying NO may apply to minor things as well.

Last week we discussed how your comfort zone affects your life. If you start a new relationship with a new partner, that usually comes with a lot of new opportunities as well to try what you haven’t before. Feel free to experiment with these and decide what is comfortable or not comfortable for you in the long-term. Try to find a balance between your old and new goals so you can create your life together gradually without having to make abrupt changes and take the next big step in the relationship when both of you feel ready. Do not put all your focus on your new partner if you’ve had only a few dates so far, because this way it will be harder to see a more or less objective image of them.

6. Learn more about your partner and everything else around you

Getting to know your partner to see a more or less objective image of them is in fact a learning process. So is the relationship itself and every other important situation in your life. Diamond is the hardest substance on earth, therefore you cannot use any other material to cut it and make it shiny, only itself. The same happens in our relationships: other people often motivate us to question our old way of thinking, learn new communication skills, become better at managing our emotions, step out of our comfort zone, start something new, and the list could be continued.

All in all, conscious dating is not about reaching a certain goal that most people think is necessary to achieve in life. It is more about being aware of your own needs and wishes and setting the right expectations accordingly. As we are all different and think differently, it is great learning opportunity as well, because it requires you to learn valuable skills such as acceptance or communicating clearly. The new people you meet might also motivate you to develop yourself in other other ways, for example by setting boundaries or stepping out of your comfort zone on the contrary. 

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How does your comfort zone affect your (love) life?

Your comfort zone plays a very important role in all parts of your life. For example when it comes to dating, you might go out with someone you don't know so well yet, ask someone you like out, stand up for yourself, look at someone's behavior from a different point of view so you can understand your role better in it, face what is holding you back (such as your fear of commitment), or try something new in order to develop yourself and meet new people. These actions probably all require you to step out of your comfort zone. 

It is incredible how your comfort zone affects your way of thinking in general as well. For example, people often make generalizations about the opposite sex, dating websites, and everything else, because that takes less effort than to examine each event that happens to you in more detail and draw your own conclusions. 

From an even more general point of view, your comfort zone affects your life regardless of your relationship status and whether you're looking for a new partner or not. If you want to be more conscious, know who you are and make decisions that are really beneficial to you, you might want to check out this video for the channel Better Ideas to get a deeper understanding of this topic (English subtitles are available if you open the video on YouTube): 

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